An Honest Dilemma about A YEAR TO LIVE

I got an email last week from a woman who had a real dilemma about the invitation to live next year as if she only has A YEAR TO LIVE.  

She wrote that if she really had a year to live she'd want to visit all of her family across the country, followed by a round the world trip with her husband and dog. She would return home to visit all her friends and sit on back deck of her house enjoying a coffee. She wrote, "Now that just isn't realistic. In fact I have just taken on a new business venture so what's a girl to do? How can I join a challenge going into a year where I am going to work my ass off and won't be able to fulfill my ideal?" 

 

I wrote that while I couldn't tell her what to do, two things came to mind:

One - perhaps it wasn't the right time to take on the challenge. Two - There might be a way to do it all if she was able to look at the underlying desires she was expressing. Could it be that she wanted quality time with her family, adventures with her husband, and relaxing time at home?  Is there another way to fulfill the underlying desires without forsaking her new business ventures.

A few days later she told me she had an epiphany. She has already planned a trip to Costa Rica for 2010 with her husband and her siblings and their spouses. That trip was going to satisfy her desire for adventure with her husband and time with her family. Knowing that she was already fulfilling some of her desires she decided to commit to A YEAR TO LIVE and see how much more she could enjoy in 2010.

It's a good exercise for each of us to look at the underlying desires that prompt our thinking ~ "the desire fueling the desire". Before we determine we can't do something it might be valuable to look at what we hope to get from that experience and explore if there's something we could do that would give us that same result.

Are you interested in joining our experiment of living 2010 as if you only have  A Year To Live - contact me at debra@Bcelebrated.com